We can work and hope that our children find their way to resilience, self-reliance, sense of purpose, responsibility, and belonging.  We can also design for it.

Co-Design a ceremony for your child to mark their transition from little child to big kid.  With as much value in the preparation and the weeks and months that follow, the experience is as much for you and your family as it is for your child.

The Rite of Competence is lots of things.  A roadmap for growing up, and a welcoming into a new level of community, responsibility and freedom.  An opportunity to growth and strengthen your family and extended family.  Developed by Mark Morey at the Institute of Natural Learning, and shared as courses for parents as well as facilitators.  The experience is

Not a normal thing to do, we know.  This is part of it's value.  To seek to support changes in how we grow our families, support our children, how we design  communities

For the Child

• A greater and richer experience of choice for your child. 

• Provides a kind of cognitive and cultural road map of a new stage of life.  A language for the transition from little kid to community member. 

• Acknowledges gifts and contributions, generates self-esteem and self-reliance.